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From: labuda@endot.UUCP (Dave Labuda)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Into the living together fray
Message-ID: <109@endot.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 8-Feb-85 04:12:04 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb  8 04:12:04 1985
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I am new to this group, but since I have lived with several women during
my sordid life I thought I'd add some thoughts. I enjoy living with
an SO because I am not ready to get married. When I get married it will
be to the end, and I am not ready to be committed like that yet. However,
I am a caring person and enjoy the intimacy of the one I love. By living
together we can share our lives just as much as if we were married, but
without the "trapped" feeling. I do consider living together a serious
committment, not to be ended rashly. However, as I grow and discover
who I am, my basic needs change and I need a different kind of person
to fulfill them. Most of my transitions from one live-in to another
have been without bitterness, because I do not try to hide my yearnings
for something new. I think that most people know when things aren't
satisfying to their SO, and would rather reduce the relationship to a
close friendship than destroy it. By just living together, this transition
is much easier, since the implications of divorce are not present....

					dave labuda
					decvax!cwruecmp!labuda

PS : Blind dates? Come on folks, if I can find dates here in Cleveland,
	I just can't feel sorry for you....

Just what you want to be,
You'll be in the end.

			(Nights in white satin, by The Moody Blues)

He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat!

			(Napolean Bonaparte)