Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site stat-l Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:Pucc-I:Stat-L:rsk From: rsk@stat-l (Wombat) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Living in sin? (Marriage Vows) Message-ID: <304@stat-l> Date: Wed, 6-Feb-85 20:14:31 EST Article-I.D.: stat-l.304 Posted: Wed Feb 6 20:14:31 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 8-Feb-85 02:09:39 EST References: <295@stat-l>, <1117@houxm.UUCP> <1795@pucc-h> Organization: Purdue University Lines: 40 Xref: watmath net.singles:5790 net.social:450 Rich Kulawiec: >> For these among other reasons, I've decided that if I ever tie the >> knot (gasp! shudder!), the words "...til death do you part" will not appear >> in the ceremony. I think it's pretty bogus to make a promise contingent on >> one's emotional state years later...perhaps a better phrasing would be >> "...til it doesn't work anymore". A bit of a radical proposal, I know, but >> at least it's honest (for me). Jeff Sargent: >I applaud Rich's honesty, but I would invite him to compare his contemplated >vows with those of a couple (not the Renaissance couple) whose (church) wedding >I attended in September. They wrote their own vows, in which they said (among >other things) the following to each other (approximate quote from memory): >"I will work for your fulfillment through all the changes of your life." Damning with faint praise, eh? Well, I've compared them. First off, I noted that they're both in English. Their vows contain more polysyllabic words; mine seem to have more of a working-class feel to them. And probably most importantly, they wrote theirs for *THEIR* wedding; we'll write ours for our own too. If you don't like them, why don't you say so? But before you do... note that they aren't for YOUR wedding. As a footnote...Chuqui, I disagree with your contention (oh, somewhere off in another net.singles article) that marriage is *supposed* to be lifelong. Maybe we're arguing semantics, but I don't think that marriage is *necessarily* intended to be forever---it's nice if it works, and hell if it doesn't. I certainly would never marry anyone who would not admit the possibility that someday we might have to part company. Maybe we need a new term--"Indefinite-Length Marriage" ?! -- Rich Kulawiec @ Purdue Unix Wombat Group rsk@purdue-asc.arpa (decvax,ihnp4,uiucdcs)!pur-ee!rsk.uucp (decwrl,hplabs,ucbvax)!purdue!rsk.uucp May you live in interesting times. -- Ancient Chinese Curse