Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2.fluke 9/24/84; site fluke.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxb!mhuxn!mhuxm!mhuxj!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!ssc-vax!fluke!tron From: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: How durable are marriages today? Message-ID: <882@vax1.fluke.UUCP> Date: Fri, 8-Feb-85 12:32:13 EST Article-I.D.: vax1.882 Posted: Fri Feb 8 12:32:13 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 11-Feb-85 07:08:20 EST References: <295@stat-l> <1117@houxm.UUCP> <2315@nsc.UUCP> <1617@ittvax.UUCP> Reply-To: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) Organization: John Fluke Mfg. Co., Inc., Everett, WA Lines: 35 Xref: watmath net.singles:5833 net.social:459 >-------- >Having read Greg's article I had difficulty uderstanding why Chuq reacted >strongly and negatively. Comparison of the excerpts above seems to >indicate that they're both in agreement, at least in general terms. >Since I have not been through marriage or divorce, I guess I missed >the subtlety. > >Nevertheless, it is difficult to deny the statistics which indicate that >one marriage in two (in certain areas) fails. Surely, with that many >people affected marriage cannot remain in people's mind as a permanent >bond. Of course there are people that still hold on to this value. I >would expect that one broken marriage would reinforce the participant's >desire for permanence next time, but no. Statistically, you are more >likely to get a divorce if you already had one. > I think that Chuq's reaction to Greg's remarks could be predicted from your discussion above. For me (and I sense for Chuq too, but please excuse me if I'm wrong) one of the hardest parts of divorce is breaking this bond that we looked at as being permanent. I do still hold onto the value of marrige being permanent. I tend to be sensitive to someone saying I don't. There is implied in what I say a guilt feeling caused by getting a divorce. This isn't quite the right way to put it, but I am dissappointed, and I'm disappointed in myself. But I'd just as soon critisize myself and not let someone else do it. Peter Barbee decvax-+-uw-beaver-+ ihnp4--+ allegra-+ ucbvax----lbl-csam-+--fluke!tron sun-+ ssc-vax-+ :