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From: rsk@stat-l (Wombat)
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Subject: Re: Living in sin? (Marriage Vows)
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Date: Wed, 6-Feb-85 20:14:31 EST
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Rich Kulawiec:

>>	For these among other reasons, I've decided that if I ever tie the
>> knot (gasp! shudder!), the words "...til death do you part" will not appear
>> in the ceremony.  I think it's pretty bogus to make a promise contingent on
>> one's emotional state years later...perhaps a better phrasing would be
>> "...til it doesn't work anymore".  A bit of a radical proposal, I know, but
>> at least it's honest (for me).

Jeff Sargent:

>I applaud Rich's honesty, but I would invite him to compare his contemplated
>vows with those of a couple (not the Renaissance couple) whose (church) wedding
>I attended in September.  They wrote their own vows, in which they said (among
>other things) the following to each other (approximate quote from memory):
>"I will work for your fulfillment through all the changes of your life."

	Damning with faint praise, eh?

	Well, I've compared them.  First off, I noted that they're both
in English.  Their vows contain more polysyllabic words; mine seem to
have more of a working-class feel to them.  And probably most importantly,
they wrote theirs for *THEIR* wedding; we'll write ours for our own too.

	If you don't like them, why don't you say so?  But before you do...
note that they aren't for YOUR wedding.

	As a footnote...Chuqui, I disagree with your contention (oh,
somewhere off in another net.singles article) that marriage is *supposed*
to be lifelong.  Maybe we're arguing semantics, but I don't think that
marriage is *necessarily* intended to be forever---it's nice if it works,
and hell if it doesn't.  I certainly would never marry anyone who would
not admit the possibility that someday we might have to part company.

	Maybe we need a new term--"Indefinite-Length Marriage" ?!
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Rich Kulawiec @ Purdue Unix Wombat Group	rsk@purdue-asc.arpa
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