Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site masscomp.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!masscomp!carlton From: carlton@masscomp.UUCP (Carlton Hommel) Newsgroups: net.abortion,net.kids Subject: Abortion/Miscarriage Grief Message-ID: <610@masscomp.UUCP> Date: Sat, 9-Feb-85 19:04:19 EST Article-I.D.: masscomp.610 Posted: Sat Feb 9 19:04:19 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 10-Feb-85 05:41:02 EST References: <582@charm.UUCP> <709@bunker.UUCP> Reply-To: carlton@masscomp.UUCP (Carlton Hommel) Organization: Masscomp - Westford, MA Lines: 35 Xref: watmath net.abortion:1237 net.kids:971 In article <709@bunker.UUCP> (Gary M. Samuelson) writes: >> How many of you have held-- or even thought of holding-- funeral >> services or Last Rites for an abortion?... For a stillbirth?... For a >> miscarriage?... > >The women I know who have had miscarriages >say, "I lost my baby," and have to resolve their grief just as if >the baby had died after birth. You ask about my sincerity. When faced with an "unwanted" pregnancy many years ago, I chose to have the baby and place the child up for adoption. I really felt that by having intercourse I *did* invite the child into my body. No matter the precautions taken, there is always the risk of pregnancy. I suffered a miscarriage when I was only nine weeks along. I felt a terrible amount of grief. Did I love my baby enough? Did I unwittingly cause the miscarriage by not eating enough? Working too much? Today, I am married, and six months along with our son. A few weeks ago, I started showing signs of an impending miscarriage. After phoning the doctor, and making arrangements to go the the hospital (I broke down and cried) and my husband made arrangements for a priest, baptism, last rites, and burial. Luckily for little Carl, the placental seperation was only minor. I work with young women facing unwanted pregnancies at two Boston-area pregnancy support centers. The vast majority have had previous abortions, and were so traumatized that they are willing to put up with the social and familial pressures of having a baby. All recall physical pain, and emotional grief, at the hands of the 'fast-food' abortion clinics. Post followups to only net.kids or net.abortion, depending on the slant of your response. Alana Hommel New Father: Saying you're going to get pregnant *afterward* does no good!! New Mother: Well, I did whisper it in your ear when I was nibbling on it....