Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 SMI; site sun.uucp Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!cbdkc1!desoto!packard!hoxna!houxm!whuxlm!akgua!sdcsvax!dcdwest!ittvax!decvax!decwrl!sun!sunny From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: marriage Message-ID: <1984@sun.uucp> Date: Fri, 8-Feb-85 12:08:28 EST Article-I.D.: sun.1984 Posted: Fri Feb 8 12:08:28 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 10-Feb-85 06:30:03 EST References: <2732@dartvax.UUCP> <2321@nsc.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc. Lines: 35 > In article <2732@dartvax.UUCP> mwm@dartvax.UUCP (M. W. Modrall) writes: > >just a short comment on the marriage controversy... > >to the people who suggest that "THEY" make it harder to get married, so that > >there will be fewer divorces... personally i find this suggestion an anethma > >to my sense of freedom.... why should i allow "THEY" to tamper with my > >decisions??? what right is it of "THEY" to care if i get divorced... > > This is, of course, completely beside the point. THEY already control > marriage and divorce-- the only alternative is to simply live together, > which has potential societal and religious drawbacks for some people. My > comments were simply that the process of becomming married should be > equivalent to the process of becomming unmarried. Currently, it is > imbalanced, it is much easier to become married (or, as some people would > say, get you into THEIR clutches) and much more difficult to resolve that > situation when it fails. I'd just like to see that balanced out. > > chuq > -- Au contraire: Anyone may enter into any contract. The fact that the "state" has a default "contract" "designed" to cover the "normal" marriage situation is only one option available. As of this past weekend, my mate, a genetic female, and myself, a legally female transsexual, have exchanged "marriage" vows acknowledging the oneness of our spirits. We plan to commence living together, and draw-up our own contract of "merryage" specifically suited to our own goals, commitments, and situation. The state need not stand in your way, nor can it's procedures provide any guarantee of the success or workability of a "marriage" relationship. I suspect that the fear of the immediacy of availability of "divorce" may keep a relationship stronger than a standard "marriage" where divorce is legally difficult, and emotionally easy as a result. With great joy and love, Karin & Sunny Kirsten -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny