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From: aeq@pucc-h (The Blackguard of the West)
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Subject: Re: Living in sin?
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Date: Wed, 6-Feb-85 18:48:11 EST
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Greg Skinner (houxm!gregbo) quoted Rich Kulawiec (stat-l:rsk), and I have
a comment applicable to both their comments.

>>	For these among other reasons, I've decided that if I ever tie the
>> knot (gasp! shudder!), the words "...til death do you part" will not appear
>> in the ceremony.  I think it's pretty bogus to make a promise contingent on
>> one's emotional state years later...perhaps a better phrasing would be
>> "...til it doesn't work anymore".  A bit of a radical proposal, I know, but
>> at least it's honest (for me).  [Kulawiec]

> A lot of people seem to be writing their own vows these days.  I guess that's
> the best thing to do if you're going to get married by the state and you're
> not sure that you can keep the traditional marriage vows.  [Skinner]

I have seen more than one church wedding which was rather non-traditional,
though the spirit of the vows was traditional.  (In one wedding, all the
principals were in Renaissance costume, including the minister!)  I applaud
Rich's honesty, but I would invite him to compare his contemplated vows with
those of a couple (not the Renaissance couple) whose (church) wedding I
attended in September.  They wrote their own vows, in which they said (among
other things) the following to each other (approximate quote from memory):
"I will work for your fulfillment through all the changes of your life."

Being unmarried myself, I will make no further comment.

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-- Jeff Sargent
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