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Subject: Singles discussions   V1 #6
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Singles discussions     Tue Oct 16 17:35:31 PDT 1984    Volume 1 : Issue 6

From: Deevie

I vote for lunch too!

It sure takes the strain off a first date (there
usually isn't time to go to bed afterwards, so
there isn't the worry "will s/he or won't s/he?"--
unless, of course, both people want to skip
work for the afternoon. . .:-), and is a good
way to ease into a dating acquaintanceship
(what do you call it before it's a Relationship,
anyway?) without starting heavy on the wine and
candlelight.

There's still a problem with asking someone
"may I call you?"; it's damn hard to say no,
even if you really don't want them to.
It sounds like such a reasonable request,
and I would feel really rotten following my
heart and saying "no."  I couldn't follow
that by saying, "Let me call you instead,"
either, because I would have no intention
of doing so.  (Un-tease--never had it, never
will! :-)

Handing the person a business card and saying,
"I'd like to see you again sometime, for lunch or
something," not phrasing it as a question that
has to be answered, leaves the pressure off
both of you, makes your intentions known,
and lets the other person take the next step.

Deevie

"Gonna get a funny t-shirt wit' the alligator on. . ."