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From: cbd@ihu1e.UUCP (Carl Deitrick)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: More Forward Women
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Date: Fri, 3-Aug-84 10:05:21 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug  3 10:05:21 1984
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	Twice in my 32 years have I been asked for a date by a woman.  One was
a secretary in the place where I worked at the time, and the other was a 
fellow volunteer in a program to teach handicapped children to ride a horse.
There was nothing earth-shattering about either case - just a simple "Carl,
would you like to ..." - but it shows that it can happen.
	I had a third experience where a woman I once knew fairly well later
told me she had wanted to ask me for a date but always got cold feet at the
last minute.  So it seems reasonable to assume that more women want to take
the initiative than actually do so.
	What I find noteworthy is the difference between the number of women
who consider themselves feminists and the number of women who have asked a
man for a date. (Keep in mind that my observations are not statistically
significant, so no flames, please).  I see a lot of women who would call
themselves feminists - they conduct their lives on the premise that primary
and secondary sexual characteristics are irrelevant to their ability to
perform in most arenas of human activity - but there seem to be very few
women who would ask a man for a date.  Why the difference?  Is dating and such
not a normal human activity?  Do all feminists come equipped with a devoted
SO?  Do feminists not care about men and dating?  Or is taking the initiative
stil considered "a man's job"?
	Reasoned replies may be sent to me at the address below.  Flames may
be sent to /dev/null.

					Carl Deitrick
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