Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 (Denver Mods 4/2/84) 6/24/83; site drutx.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!drutx!lmf From: lmf@drutx.UUCP (FullerL) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Asking men out Message-ID: <816@drutx.UUCP> Date: Tue, 7-Aug-84 11:41:06 EDT Article-I.D.: drutx.816 Posted: Tue Aug 7 11:41:06 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 8-Aug-84 19:41:55 EDT References: <441@ames.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Laboratories, Denver Lines: 16 Back in the days of dating men I quite often asked men out. I started asking out boys in my high school class. This was 73-75 by the way. Some of them were quite surprised, most were flattered and it worked out fine. In college and after college I had the same experience. In some cases they weren't as interested as I was we quit seeing each other after a short time. In other cases I found I wasn't as interested as I thought I was and we quit seeing each other. I always figured that if they had a strong negative reaction to me making the first move then their consciousness was not feminist enough for me anyway and I would rather know that up front. One of the problems I saw as a woman initiating dates or sex was that many men do not know how to say no (especially, 16-26 year olds). It really helps (in all kinds of relationships) to know that the person you are asking will say no if they are not interested in whatever you are asking. Lori Fuller