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From: alan@allegra.UUCP (Alan S. Driscoll)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Asking men out
Message-ID: <2683@allegra.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 7-Aug-84 13:14:18 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug  7 13:14:18 1984
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> I've never been asked out directly but let's try this example.
> You meet a girl that you like and you smile.  That's it for the
> time being.  Several days, maybe a week you see her again, then
> again, then again etc.  Each time you see her it is not coincidental,
> she makes sure that you see her.  It is evident that she shows up
> because you are there and she likes you or wants to date you.  It
> seems to me that this is almost a case where the girl asks you for
> a date. It is the closest that I have ever come to being asked out.
> I think that you have to read into situations at times, especially
> ones of this sort.

If she can't be direct with you in the beginning, don't count
on her being any more direct later on.  You may be expected to
figure out (guess? read her mind?) what she's feelings and what
she wants all the time.

I've been in this situation, and I found it very uncomfortable.
I prefer to be around people who aren't afraid to be direct and
honest.  (I'm a lousy mind reader.)

-- 

	Alan S. Driscoll
	AT&T Bell Laboratories