Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!zehntel!hplabs!sdcrdcf!sdcsvax!akgua!mcnc!decvax!cca!ima!inmet!wisen From: wisen@inmet.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Re: 'forward women' - (nf) Message-ID: <1684@inmet.UUCP> Date: Wed, 22-Aug-84 00:49:01 EDT Article-I.D.: inmet.1684 Posted: Wed Aug 22 00:49:01 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 14-Aug-84 00:45:03 EDT Lines: 39 #R:alice:-294200:inmet:8200022:000:1628 inmet!wisen Aug 7 13:24:00 1984 on the subject of asking women out: yes, there are men who do it. i've done it. it's really not so hard. and of course in an ideal world it would be no different from women's asking men out. but in this world, in this day and age, from a practical point of view, i don't think it's a very good idea: case 1: the girl already likes you. then 9 times out of 10, she'll call you. so there's no need for you to call her. case 2: she doesn't like you. then she's going to reject you when you call, and we all know that's a drag. case 3: she's undecided. then 9 times out of 10 your calling her is going to put her off, not make her interested. as i tried to indicate with the "9 times out of 10" qualifiers, these are certainly generalizations (i.e., there are certainly exceptions and there's no need for all you girls who claim to like being asked out to write in and offer yourselves up as examples) and they are only the observations i've made. i've had a lot of experience, but of course it's biased because it's all mine. are there men out there who have done a lot of asking and found that it's the best policy? one more attempt to douse the flames before i ignite them: my "it doesn't pay to call her" advice is directed at situations in which the two people are just getting to know each other. if you're already friends or already involved, then i'd expect both parties to do roughly equal amounts of calling. . |\ ------Bruce Wisentaner /| \ cca!ima! \ / | \ esquire! --inmet!wisen o / | \ harpo! / ^_. _/___|===== O\/`O \_______/] \_(