Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site uwvax.ARPA Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!houxm!houxz!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!hao!seismo!uwvax!robin From: robin@uwvax.ARPA Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: open marriages Message-ID: <374@uwvax.ARPA> Date: Wed, 8-Aug-84 21:18:45 EDT Article-I.D.: uwvax.374 Posted: Wed Aug 8 21:18:45 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 12-Aug-84 00:46:29 EDT Organization: U of Wisconsin CS Dept Lines: 29 Judy made an interesting comment: >It really makes me mad when I get the impression that people EXPECT >their spouse to cheat on them sometime - and are willing to accept >it. I suppose that with an attitude like this an "open" marriage >sounds comforting. But let me tell you from my own experience that >IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THAT WAY. You don't have to settle for that. I know several couples who have 'open' marriages (and relationships) and that is exactly what they have done: one partner has had to settle for something less than what they wanted to begin with. Most (can I use that word now :-)) of these relationships come from one person deciding that they want their sexual freedom ("People aren't like soap, they don't wear out." grrrr) while the other would prefer an exclusive relationship. With a difference of opinion so great, someone has to give and it's usually the one who wants an exclusive relationship. You and your husband are lucky in that you agreed that you would be sexually exclusive even in the face of long separation. -- Robin Beal @ wisconsin ...!{allegra,heurikon,ihnp4,seismo,sfwin,ucbvax,uwm-evax}!uwvax!robin robin@wisc-rsch.arpa