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Subject: Men and Women Different? - (nf)
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zinfandel!joe    Aug  1 09:37:00 1984



		Hi. It seems to me that there is a fundamental
	difference between men and women in the way they relate
	to sex, that is beyond the effects of socialization.
		I suggest that men on average are more driven
	sexually, in that they often exibit a frame of mind
	that was the root cause of any accidents the beautiful
	hot-dog vendor "caused". I can't imagine the average
	woman being so struck visually from a moving car by anything
	about the physical attractiveness of a person that she
	would crash her car.
		Also, another difference I perceive that I would
	like to mention is that men differentiate sex, character,
	and love, and that women do not. In the case of separating
	sex and character I often fantasize sexual relations with
	women I have never met, and the intricacies of their
	characters can add to the fantasy as I imagine it, but all
	that is necessary for a pleasurable fantasy is that I 
	imagine a minimal awareness of the woman's mental state
	in that I believe she enjoys what we're doing. Beyond that
	I don't *need* to create a specific image. I am sometimes
	happy to attribute to her my ideas about "archtypal woman".
	It is as though I am making love to Woman, not *a* woman.
		This expresses the roots of my sexuality, and it
	frees me from *my* particulars. I become *man*, not *a* man,
	and I become the pure face of sexual communion.
		Of course women do this too but I believe that either
	they do it less or they express it a lot less, and in any case
	they don't mow down pedestrians doing it.

		What do you think?

				Joe Weinstein
				Zehntel Inc.
				415-932-6900