Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site decwrl.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!houxm!houxz!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!zehntel!dual!decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-kirk!williams From: williams@kirk.DEC (John Williams 223-3402) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: A key, a measure, a composition Message-ID: <3167@decwrl.UUCP> Date: Wed, 8-Aug-84 10:42:26 EDT Article-I.D.: decwrl.3167 Posted: Wed Aug 8 10:42:26 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 10-Aug-84 01:53:08 EDT Sender: daemon@decwrl.UUCP Organization: DEC Engineering Network Lines: 49 I personally prefer to experience people before I consider wanting to share activities with them. I find that all too often, the attention is focussed on the display, rather than on the being inside. I have found in many of my relationships, that there has been a barrier of personality, that somehow, things just didn't hold the same meaning for the both of us. I try to reconcile, but don't always have the time to understand the meanings and views of my partner without somehow feeling that it is a distortion of reality. I find that this has made me cautious. I can very often tell alot about a person by the words and inflections they use, but in individual conversations, I find that each one is just another facet of that person's complete personality, whether concious or unconcious. There is a popular theory that intellegence itself is an evolutionary product of this kind of social behaviour. I find more often than not, I am not changing the views I hold as much as the way I express them, and though continuing communication, the symbols we exchange hold increasingly similar meanings. I find that with some people, these meanings converge, with some people, these meanings diverge, and with some people, they verge on the ridiculous. The divergent I avoid if possible, the ridiculous I don't take seriously. I try to maintain communication with those I feel are potentially convergent, even if it's only a simple `` Hello ''. I guess what I look for mostly is an `` open-ness ''. It implies an ability to control one's own mind to me. It implies an ability to not let your more vulgar emotions to control your destiny. And above all, I look for patience. Relationships should avoid critical timing. The result is eventually, failure. Maybe I can't explain my actions to you in 25 words or less, but if you have enough patience, I am confident that you will eventually understand. I have to assume that we have a concious, and I will base my actions, as best I can, accordingly. < like, cool to be, mon > (DEC E-NET) KIRK::WILLIAMS (UUCP) {decvax, ucbvax, allegra}!decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-kirk!williams (ARPA) williams%kirk.DEC@decwrl.ARPA williams%kirk.DEC@Purdue-Merlin.ARPA