Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site allegra.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!alan From: alan@allegra.UUCP (Alan S. Driscoll) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Asking men out Message-ID: <2683@allegra.UUCP> Date: Tue, 7-Aug-84 13:14:18 EDT Article-I.D.: allegra.2683 Posted: Tue Aug 7 13:14:18 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 8-Aug-84 19:45:37 EDT References: <441@ames.UUCP>, <372@houxh.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Murray Hill Lines: 25 > I've never been asked out directly but let's try this example. > You meet a girl that you like and you smile. That's it for the > time being. Several days, maybe a week you see her again, then > again, then again etc. Each time you see her it is not coincidental, > she makes sure that you see her. It is evident that she shows up > because you are there and she likes you or wants to date you. It > seems to me that this is almost a case where the girl asks you for > a date. It is the closest that I have ever come to being asked out. > I think that you have to read into situations at times, especially > ones of this sort. If she can't be direct with you in the beginning, don't count on her being any more direct later on. You may be expected to figure out (guess? read her mind?) what she's feelings and what she wants all the time. I've been in this situation, and I found it very uncomfortable. I prefer to be around people who aren't afraid to be direct and honest. (I'm a lousy mind reader.) -- Alan S. Driscoll AT&T Bell Laboratories