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From: fritz@hpfclk.UUCP (fritz)
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Subject: Re: Re: "forward women"
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Date: Fri, 10-Aug-84 14:57:00 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 10 14:57:00 1984
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Nf-From: hpfclk!fritz    Aug  7 10:57:00 1984

Right on, Anita.  Sure, it was scary.  Sure, you had doubts as to whether
it was a smart thing to do.  So do us guys!

I am (according to women who know me well) a very sensitive, gentle
person.  I am a good listener.  I am all those great things that a
non-macho man is supposed to be.

However, I am NOT 1) very brave about asking women out, nor 2) very good
at detecting if a woman is interested in me!  (I am certain that the two
weaknesses reinforce each other, making for a vicious cycle.)  I am also
somewhat awkward/uncomfortable in social situation with a new MOTOS.
This makes it fairly traumatic for me to initiate a relationship, as I will 
often try to pursue someone *I'm* interested in, but who isn't interested in 
me.  (In high school, my favorite Charlie Brown quote was:  "It's hard on 
a face when it gets laughed in!")

As a result, I am sure I have missed out on satisfying relationships
because I didn't know a lady would be interested, and thus chickened out.
Stupid?  You bet!  But that's the way it's been.  I'm working on it,
but still have a long way to go.

Luckily for me, there have been several nice women who took the initiative
and asked *me* out.  My two most significant relationships resulted from
the woman initially asking me, or from the woman actively chasing me after
I asked her out once or twice.  While it can be a little unnerving, it is
extremely flattering -- and will certainly get the man's attention.

So, ladies, give it a try.  Any male who is turned off by a forthright
woman probably has other outdated attitudes, and you wouldn't want to
get serious about him anyway, right?  :->

Gary Fritz
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