Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site alice.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!alice!jf From: jf@alice.UUCP () Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: "forward women" Message-ID: <2942@alice.UUCP> Date: Thu, 2-Aug-84 08:57:56 EDT Article-I.D.: alice.2942 Posted: Thu Aug 2 08:57:56 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 3-Aug-84 23:56:21 EDT References: <441@ames.UUCP>, <1260@nsc.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Murray Hill Lines: 29 on the subject of asking men out: yes, there are women who do it. i've done it. it's really not so hard. and of course in an ideal world it would be no different from men's asking women out. but in this world, in this day and age, from a practical point of view, i don't think it's a very good idea: case 1: the guy already likes you. then 9 times out of 10, he'll call you. so there's no need for you to call him. case 2: he doesn't like you. then he's going to reject you when you call, and we all know that's a drag. case 3: he's undecided. then 9 times out of 10 your calling him is going to put him off, not make him interested. as i tried to indicate with the "9 times out of 10" qualifiers, these are certainly generalizations (i.e., there are certainly exceptions and there's no need for all you guys who claim to like being asked out to write in and offer yourselves up as examples) and they are only the observations i've made. i've had a lot of experience, but of course it's biased because it's all mine. are there women out there who have done a lot of asking and found that it's the best policy? one more attempt to douse the flames before i ignite them: my "it doesn't pay to call him" advice is directed at situations in which the two people are just getting to know each other. if you're already friends or already involved, then i'd expect both parties to do roughly equal amounts of calling.