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Subject: Re: Re: 'forward women' - (nf)
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Date: Wed, 22-Aug-84 00:49:01 EDT
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Posted: Wed Aug 22 00:49:01 1984
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inmet!wisen    Aug  7 13:24:00 1984

on the subject of asking women out:

yes, there are men who do it.  i've done it.  it's really not so hard.
and of course in an ideal world it would be no different from women's asking
men out.  but in this world, in this day and age, from a practical point
of view, i don't think it's a very good idea:

case 1:  the girl already likes you.  then 9 times out of 10, she'll call you.
so there's no need for you to call her.

case 2:  she doesn't like you.  then she's going to reject you when you call,
and we all know that's a drag.

case 3:  she's undecided.  then 9 times out of 10 your calling her is going to
put her off, not make her interested.

as i tried to indicate with the "9 times out of 10" qualifiers, these are
certainly generalizations (i.e., there are certainly exceptions and there's
no need for all you girls who claim to like being asked out to write in and
offer yourselves up as examples) and they are only the observations i've made.
i've had a lot of experience, but of course it's biased because it's all
mine.  are there men out there who have done a lot of asking and found that
it's the best policy?

one more attempt to douse the flames before i ignite them:  my "it doesn't
pay to call her" advice is directed at situations in which the two people
are just getting to know each other.  if you're already friends or already
involved, then i'd expect both parties to do roughly equal amounts of calling.
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