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From: mark@teltone.UUCP (Mark McWiggins)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: How to Ask Men Out
Message-ID: <673@teltone.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 10-Aug-84 02:58:51 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 10 02:58:51 1984
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As one who has been turned down for dates oh so many times,
I thought I'd offer my insights to those women wavering on
the edge of taking the initiative....

1. Keep it in perspective.

   There are (at least) two ways of looking at it when you get turned
   down: "I'm a terrible, worthless person who should shrivel up and
   die" or "I'm still OK; he (a) doesn't recognize quality and/or (b) is
   probably gay and/or (c) is probably going with somebody else and/or 
   (d) is probably still smarting from a painful ex-romance ..." and so forth.

2. If you don't want to face rejection in person, there are Other Ways.

   Give him your card with phone number and witty saying indicating your
   interest.  If he doesn't respond, he obviously isn't interested.  If
   you can't (or don't want to) do this in person, send him intriguing
   mail.  Or maybe flowers.  Who could resist?

3. If at first you don't succeed ....

   Don't let one rejection scare you off.  Keep at it.  Remember, if
   SOMEBODY doesn't make the first move, the species will die out... :-)

And one tip for both sexes for turning down dates: be gentle and don't
tell tall tales.  I can accept the fact that I won't appeal to every
woman; a simple "Thanks, but I'd rather not" is vastly preferable to
"My grandmother died" for the third time.  Even the dimmest of us can
count grandmothers.  

I'm also avaiable for individual counseling on these matters; just send
mail ... :-)
-- 
Have you ever gotten such service from Cosmo?

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