Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site fortune.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!decvax!decwrl!amd!fortune!martin From: martin@fortune.UUCP (Kera Martin) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: FEAR in men Message-ID: <3889@fortune.UUCP> Date: Fri, 27-Jul-84 19:48:30 EDT Article-I.D.: fortune.3889 Posted: Fri Jul 27 19:48:30 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 28-Jul-84 21:30:06 EDT Organization: Fortune Systems, Redwood City, CA Lines: 23 I've been following this newsgroup for awhile - a closet reader, anyway, something of note has finally occurred and I'd like some comments from you ... After spending a post-divorce year alone, I finally met a man I cared for. He spent 2 months actively pursuing me (constant attention) and during that time, the ice (mine) melted slowly. His persistence and encouragement for my falling in love with him finally worked. I really felt ready for another involvement. Almost immediately , when I said "OK I'm ready", he said "Hey, you know what, on second thought, let's just cool it." Things went from bad to worse until I finally told him I couldn't see him anymore. He didn't like that either, wanted to "keep his options open ." You know, take me down off the shelf and play with me when he felt like it. (my interpretation here) What I really see are two problems - his fear (commitment, that cr*p about losing his freedom, maybe missing out on some greener grass, etc.) the second - my fear (loneliness, going through that pain all over again). So it's back to the casual stuff for me (for awhile anyway). And no, I'm not seeing him... I don't have enough time for the friends I know I trust. Kera Martin