Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ncsu.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!ihnp4!zehntel!dual!amd!decwrl!decvax!mcnc!ncsu!rdr From: rdr@ncsu.UUCP (druid) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: everything and more... Message-ID: <2661@ncsu.UUCP> Date: Wed, 8-Aug-84 01:46:58 EDT Article-I.D.: ncsu.2661 Posted: Wed Aug 8 01:46:58 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 4-Aug-84 01:25:27 EDT Organization: N.C. State University, Raleigh Lines: 91 <(-O-)> -- Jeff Sargent - Comments on this new wrinkle? > The thing is: There already are > numerous MOTOS's who LIKE me. It is hard, however, to quash the hope that > one of them will WANT me... that is just another thing you have to learn to deal with. i sometimes find myself disappointed because someone i know has 'chosen' someone else instead of me, even though i may not have really wanted them to choose me. everyone likes to be wanted (or needed), and we all like to see evidence of this. > It is this fear -- that I would be > hurt, rather than helped, by an SO-ship, and that I could not hold up my end > of such a relationship > -- that is now keeping me from making many efforts to get to know > more women, lest one of them become interested in more than friendship. > I'm just a little afraid that, if a woman did become interested, and > she was at all attractive, I might react "FINALLY!" and plunge into an > SO-ship, and then realize that I made a terrible mistake. everyone is afraid of being hurt, but that is a chance that most people are willing to take. everyone also takes a chance that their SO can hold up their end of the relationship. it seems to me that they are both the exact same risk, seen from opposite sides. in taking the chance of getting into a relationship and maybe getting hurt, you betting that the other person is capable of, and willing to, hold up their end of the relationship (so to speak). of course it isn't that simple, but give yourself some credit, give someone else the chance to believe in you. sure, having an SO means commitment (to some degree) and giving of yourself, but if anything is going at all right, it also means receiving from the SO, a sharing on both sides. half the fun at christmas is the giving. think about it. where the heck is Tucumcari? --------------------------------------------------------------- $ By my calculations, $100,000 in gold is about 27 pounds. You sure $ you want to bet that I can't swim with 27 pounds strapped to my legs? you sure you want to bet that you can? --------------------------------------------------------------- tekig!davidl & ihuxl!walt2 what rock did the two of you crawl out from under, anyway? neither one has learned to talk to real people and either one has yet to learn where the letter 'u' is on his keyboard. !> Don't bother to complain about my language, if it offends you, rest assured !> that I like to offend people like you deliberately. is that what you were trying to do? like, oh-ma-god! how unique. &> Grow up folks. The least you can do is fake being an adult. >>>>>>> The least YOU can do is *act* like one. >>>>>>> Start with a little (big word for the day) consideration for others. --------------------------------------------------------------- rsk: maybe jeff was in the wrong, but he was not viscious in his criticism of you. he did qualify what he said with "(to my knowledge)". he may have had no call to make assumptions about your life style or past, but you on the other hand had no call for cheap, viscious cuts. correcting him is one thing (which you apparently chose not to do), blasting him down, quite another. (* note that i am *not* taking sides in the argument *) --------------------------------------------------------------- parties: how about holding a party in the mid-atlantic area (near DC) so that it is within reach of most of the east coast. NY and Mass are too far north for the whole southern half of the east coast (at least those of us with limited funds). i would consider volunteering, except that i have no fixed address as yet, and i'm too far south. on the other hand, you have to go where the people are. oh well (sigh)... BYODTAH?? ---------------------------------------------------------------- gifts: all of the gifts that women like to give men (on the afore-published list) sound great and none of them even costs much (except maybe clothes). they are all great things to get and (i suspect) to give to women in return, as well ( do you agree?). ---------------------------------------------------------------- enough of this, it is late, indeed. this is what i get for being out of town for a week or more... collecting waters in a paper cup... dave hesselberth the Druid of NC decvax!mcnc!ncsu!rdr (put my name in Subject line if you mail; not my account)