Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site oddjob.UChicago.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!gargoyle!oddjob!garret From: garret@oddjob.UChicago.UUCP (Trisha O Tuama) Newsgroups: net.social Subject: Re: Wedding invitation question Message-ID: <389@oddjob.UChicago.UUCP> Date: Sat, 18-Aug-84 16:54:38 EDT Article-I.D.: oddjob.389 Posted: Sat Aug 18 16:54:38 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 19-Aug-84 04:12:15 EDT References: <370@tellab1.UUCP>, <155@ios.UUCP> Organization: U. Chicago: Astronomy & Astrophysics Lines: 26 ***** Here is an "opposite" point of view (so to speak): my "friends" Barb and Larry were married a month before my husband and I were married. Six weeks before their wedding, Barb told me that since she and Larry were being married in her family church in Tennessee, they had decided not to invite any of the people they knew in Chicago (ie, four years accumulation of friends, classmates, bosses, professors, colleagues, roommates, etc.) and had instead decided to invite only his family (from NYC) and her parents' friends in Tennessee. Barb's reasoning went something like this: well, most of the people here (Chicago) couldn't or wouldn't go all the way down there and anyway, we wouldn't have any place for them to stay, and it just seems like a waste of money to send invitations to people who won't be coming to the wedding. My feelings regarding her action were mixed, ranging from amazement to hurt, as we, obviously, were among the many people Barb and Larry did not invite. And, since it now seemed like a waste of money for us to a) buy them a wedding present; or b) send them an invitation to our wedding, we did neither. Trisha O Tuama ps: the person who mentioned sending out RSVP cards should read what Miss Manners has to say about this particular aspect of wedding etiquette.