Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site randvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!ihnp4!zehntel!hplabs!sdcrdcf!randvax!edhall From: edhall@randvax.UUCP (Ed Hall) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: To be sensitive or to be an asshole!? Message-ID: <1879@randvax.UUCP> Date: Mon, 13-Aug-84 23:09:35 EDT Article-I.D.: randvax.1879 Posted: Mon Aug 13 23:09:35 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 16-Aug-84 02:37:59 EDT References: <504@ubc-vision.CDN>, <8621@watmath.UUCP> Organization: Rand Corp., Santa Monica Lines: 22 Sensitivity and strength are orthogonal; you can be both sensitive *and* strong, or you can be a boorish wimp. In fact, sometimes sensitivity and strength go together, as it can take strength to stand up to the hurts sensitivity often brings. A sensitive person needn't be ruled by her/his feelings. If the question was whether to be sensitive or macho, I'd agree that the two are mutually exclusive. A few possible answers to the original question (why do some sensitive men go lonely while the macho assholes get plenty of attention): 1. Because a sensitive, weak person can be an incredible burden, as he'll probably be insecure and passive. And many sensitive people are amazingly self-centered. 2. Men who follow a more ``traditional'' pattern are a known quantity, and thus can be more comfortable to be around since the rules of the game are already established. I'm sure you can think of others. -Ed Hall decvax!randvax!edhall