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From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.CDN (Farzin Mokhtarian)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: To be sensitive or to be an asshole!?
Message-ID: <504@ubc-vision.CDN>
Date: Thu, 9-Aug-84 14:48:58 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug  9 14:48:58 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 12-Aug-84 01:05:16 EDT
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> Nah.  All pretentiousness and hand wringing aside, sensitivity in males
> is often viewed by BOTH sexes as weakness.  The assholes may be assholes,
> but they don't spend their nights alone.  Do we say one thing and do another,
> I wonder?                                           Ron Christian

(1) If sensitivity is often viewed as a weakness, then the best way to fight
    that attitude is to be strong and retain one's sensitivity. It can be
    done if it is important enough.
       
(2) The assholes may not spend their nights "alone" but is it true that they
    don't spend their nights "lonely"? Is it not better to be "alone" than to 
    be with someone who doesn't respect or understand one's sensitivity? 
    Spending the night with such a person is not much of a "reward" for being
    sensitive. The fact that "assholes" don't spend their nights alone 
    doesn't bother me or make me envy them.
       
	 Farzin Mokhtarian        < ubc-vision!mokhtar >