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From: forys@sunybcs.UUCP (Jeff Forys)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: RE: Re: Asking men out
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Date: Fri, 10-Aug-84 12:05:27 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 10 12:05:27 1984
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From alan@allegra.UUCP (Alan S. Driscoll)  Posted: Tue Aug  7 13:14:18 1984
> If she can't be direct with you in the beginning, don't count
> on her being any more direct later on.  You may be expected to
> figure out (guess? read her mind?) what she's feelings and what
> she wants all the time.
Not necessarily.  You could be dealing with a shy girl who isn't sure how
to make the first move -- she's waiting for the guy to do it.  Once he has,
she becomes more at ease around him and more herself.  This probably goes
for either sex.

> I've been in this situation, and I found it very uncomfortable.
> I prefer to be around people who aren't afraid to be direct and
> honest.  (I'm a lousy mind reader.)
You *might* be missing out on some fine people just because you can't
understand them.  I don't find it uncomfortable -- It's actually more
like a quality I endeavor to find.  No, I can't read minds either --
but I wouldn't want to -- people wouldn't be as interesting!

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