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From: dmmartindale@watcgl.UUCP (Dave Martindale)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Do [wo]mens attitudes change toward you when you get engaged?
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Date: Fri, 17-Feb-84 13:01:11 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb 17 13:01:11 1984
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I think Judy has the right idea.  It is easier to be open with someone
when I'm not worried about them misinterpreting what I say or do.  This
applies in many ways - I find it easier to talk about personal things
with someone who I believe will understand what I mean than with
someone where I'm not sure of that, for example.  When it comes to
conversations and activities with someone of the alternate sex,
if both people are interested just in friendship or both are interested
in more than friendship and both know this, then they don't need to worry
about misinterpretation.  Where the kind of interest is different for
both people, or the people simply don't know how the other person
feels, then they may automatically be more cautious.  In the case of
one of the parties being engaged, this probably serves as a loud, clear,
and fairly reliable signal that this person isn't interested in more
than friendship with someone else.