Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ubc-vision.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!floyd!harpo!ihnp4!alberta!ubc-vision!mokhtar From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.UUCP (Farzin Mokhtarian) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: re: anger Message-ID: <196@ubc-vision.UUCP> Date: Wed, 22-Feb-84 00:01:23 EST Article-I.D.: ubc-visi.196 Posted: Wed Feb 22 00:01:23 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 17-Feb-84 02:39:18 EST Organization: UBC Vision, Vancouver, BC., Canada Lines: 26 It is unfortunate to see one's words interpreted in a way which wasn't originally intended especially if those words were chosen very carefully. But one should accept that risk. The only other alternative is not to communicate. I never meant to imply any suppression of emotions (including anger). That is definitely unhealthy. It is the form of that expression which is very important. I don't believe that anger is constructive though (unless you consider becoming a better requetteball player constructive). Yes, I can visualize a court or a pseudo-court situation in which a victim of a crime is "expected" to show anger or the crime will be considered to not have been very painful to the victim. That will not justify the "encouraged" anger though. Perhaps what is meant by constructive anger is using it as a source of energy to fight back the criminal or criminals. What will happen to that source of energy when the heat of anger dissipates? There must be willingness and care for the cause which should also last beyond anger. If I were to react to crimes with anger, I really would have to be angry all my life because I am either subjected to or can see people around me being subjected to more subtle, ongoing, long term crimes. And aren't those more severe than very short (few minutes or few hours) ones? The latter is *over* after some time. I prefer not to be angry all or most of my life. It is not me. Sorry if this is not very relevant to net.women anymore but the discussion started here.