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From: avi@pegasus.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Do [wo]mens attitudes change toward you when you get engaged?
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Date: Thu, 16-Feb-84 23:51:03 EST
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Posted: Thu Feb 16 23:51:03 1984
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I got engaged a month ago, and have been noticing a change in the attitudes
of some of the women I know. I am wondering if these may be real, or just a
difference in my attitudes and perceptions. Suddenly, many of them are much
friendlier, more open, and even less reserved. Does the fact that I have
found someone, who also wants me, make me more desirable somehow as
something they can't get? Am I suddenly safe because I am not likely to be
chasing after them. Can they relate to me better now that I seem to lack
ulterior motives? It sort of reminds me of the easy comfortable way I get
along with the wives of my close friends. Is it possible that they are
reacting to the fact that I am less anxious and more content and in love?
Or, am I just imagining all this?

This may apply equally well to men and women, but I am specifically focusing
my question at the women in the audience. What is your reaction to this.
Does your level of comfort with a guy change when he becomes taken in some
way -- such as going steady, engaged or worse? What sorts of things make you
more comfortable around a man? Are you more comfortable with someone married
or someone who is gay? I could go on asking questions, but I would rather
just stop and wait for others to raise the points that do it for them.
-- 
-=> Avi E. Gross @ AT&T Information Systems Laboratories (201) 576-6241
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