Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pegasus.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!houxm!hogpc!pegasus!avi From: avi@pegasus.UUCP Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Do [wo]mens attitudes change toward you when you get engaged? Message-ID: <945@pegasus.UUCP> Date: Thu, 16-Feb-84 23:51:03 EST Article-I.D.: pegasus.945 Posted: Thu Feb 16 23:51:03 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 18-Feb-84 01:38:47 EST Organization: AT&T Information Systems, Lincroft NJ Lines: 22 I got engaged a month ago, and have been noticing a change in the attitudes of some of the women I know. I am wondering if these may be real, or just a difference in my attitudes and perceptions. Suddenly, many of them are much friendlier, more open, and even less reserved. Does the fact that I have found someone, who also wants me, make me more desirable somehow as something they can't get? Am I suddenly safe because I am not likely to be chasing after them. Can they relate to me better now that I seem to lack ulterior motives? It sort of reminds me of the easy comfortable way I get along with the wives of my close friends. Is it possible that they are reacting to the fact that I am less anxious and more content and in love? Or, am I just imagining all this? This may apply equally well to men and women, but I am specifically focusing my question at the women in the audience. What is your reaction to this. Does your level of comfort with a guy change when he becomes taken in some way -- such as going steady, engaged or worse? What sorts of things make you more comfortable around a man? Are you more comfortable with someone married or someone who is gay? I could go on asking questions, but I would rather just stop and wait for others to raise the points that do it for them. -- -=> Avi E. Gross @ AT&T Information Systems Laboratories (201) 576-6241 suggested paths: [ihnp4, allegra, cbosg, hogpc, ...]!pegasus!avi