Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site abnjh.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!abnjh!lute From: lute@abnjh.UUCP (J. Collymore) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Hands Across the Border Message-ID: <449@abnjh.UUCP> Date: Wed, 8-Feb-84 09:43:47 EST Article-I.D.: abnjh.449 Posted: Wed Feb 8 09:43:47 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 10-Feb-84 01:54:36 EST References: <2234@ihldt.UUCP> Organization: ATTIS, NJ Lines: 35 "I wonder if the attitudes of women in Alberta about dancing together implies that they are more outspoken toward men (i. e., if they want to dance, do they generally ask men they find interesting, or do they wait to be asked?)." Well, Bob, here are some additional observations I made in relation to your question. While in that particular bar on the first night (a weekday night), a young woman came over to me and asked me to dance. (I was standing alone, away from my group of friends, and was near the dance floor.) We danced several numbers, and talked (or tried to) on the dance floor. When we were done, I escorted her back to her table where she had left her male companion. It is my opinion after a week in Calgary, and meeting more people in and out of the bars, that this woman (as here in the U.S.) was the exception and not the rule. For the most part I felt that at least in Calgary, traditional male-female roles were strongly held as norms. If anything, the women would much rather wait and be asked to dance, rather than dance with each other, or ask a man to dance. As a male, I found this to have its advantages, because as in most bars, a lot of men stand around staring at women, never asking them to dance. The women get more and more anxious to dance. Since I LOVE to dance, and am never inhibited when there's good music, (and since the women here did not allow themselves the outlet of dancing with each other) I hardly ever got turned down when I asked a woman to dance. It was a refreshing change from dealing with the (overly) selective attitudes of women I have met in other dance bars. Jim Collymore